The stories of our lives: ‘I am invisible’

By | January 20, 2010

We are the girl and boy, now in our 40s, who went to the abortion clinic when we were sophomores in college. We couldn’t tell our parents, they would not have understood … and we had plans to finish college. Now at 40, we are happily married to other people, have children and live in different parts of the country; but the deep pain of that abortion never leaves. Nothing has numbed the pain over the years. Our spouses don’t even know. We didn’t know the truth. The clinic lied and said it was not a baby. We didn’t know an abortion killed a tiny person, or that it would still affect us so deeply. All three of us are invisible.

I am in my 50s and my mother was in a home. She was terminally ill, but she was doing OK. When I looked at her, I saw her strength and beauty and sacrifice as a wonderful mom. They didn’t see the value in this old lady who took up space in their residence. The pressure was so great to have to be there all the time, I had a full-time job and my brothers and sisters were not as understanding and as available. There was a lack of respect and compassion for my mother. My mother became invisible.

We are the couple who got married last year. We are the couple who are celebrating their 20th anniversary and have two children. We have great careers and wonderful lives. We go on vacation a couple times a year and plan for our future. We decide where children fit or don’t fit in our plans, because we don’t want an unplanned pregnancy, so we use contraception.

There are conflicting reports about the links of contraceptives to breast cancer or the fact that in some cases a baby is conceived, but the contraception actually aborts the baby. We never really looked into the facts about contraception. We didn’t know an embryo was a person. We didn’t think about them. They were invisible.

I am a Catholic. I am created to bring light to the darkness. I am called to change this world by being a voice for the voiceless, by being visible for the invisible. I am made in the visible image and likeness of God, who was made man, and gave his life for us: The visible embryo and fetus, the visible terminally ill person and elderly.

Jan. 22, 2010, marks 37 years since the Supreme Court declared that the babies in the womb are invisible and are allowed to be killed through abortion. We are created to respect and to be responsible for the dignity and sanctity of each life — from conception till natural death. We are entrusted by God to do no less than to celebrate, promote and defend the invisible and make them visible. (Check out the Catechism of the Catholic Church on life issues, from 2259-2379.)

Pallini is respect life consultant for the Diocese of Green Bay.

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